Learning from Fame
Many were shocked last month to find out that Bill and Melinda Gates were getting a divorce after a marriage of over 27 years. While the public was saddened to learn this truth and the divorce will no doubt be incredibly difficult for both of them, the couple managed to teach valuable lessons that may apply to your own divorce.
Thought Went Into The Decision
In their statement, Bill and Melinda Gates made the decision to get a divorce “after a great deal of thought and a lot of work on [their] relationship.” The couple did not decide to end their marriage in the heat of the moment; both of them took the time to try and work out their issues before coming to an agreement on what was best for both of them. In the end, they were honest with one another, and this honesty helped both of them come to an amicable decision.
The couple stated that they “no longer believe [they] can grow as a couple.” This honesty, while certainly difficult, shows that honesty is necessary in order to make the best decision for both you and your partner.
You Shouldn’t Rush Divorce
Many people, in order to get through the pain of divorce as quickly as possible, try to rush through the process. Bill and Melinda Gates, however, are navigating their divorce slowly in order to allow each person the time to work through and process what is happening. While it is true that they do have more assets they will have to work through, thereby requiring more time, they both seem to be intentional in the steps they are taking.
Rather than dive straight into a divorce and perhaps catch your partner off guard, the Gates divorce taught us that divorce-seekers should slow down and take the time necessary to work through all of the issues associated with the process.
Practice Emotional Intelligence
Divorce is difficult for anyone, especially if a couple has been married for as long as Bill and Melinda Gates. The issues that you may have with your partner may cause negative feelings to burst out, but understanding the importance of emotional intelligence can help the process seem smoother and experience fewer complications.
Notice that Bill and Melinda Gates have not given any statements that badmouth the other person or paint the other person in a negative light. While incredibly difficult, perhaps, focusing on moving forward and refusing to dwell on another person’s faults can really help both parties take necessary steps toward their new life.
Do You Have Questions About Divorce?
Wondering if divorce is the right decision for you can be scary and filled with uncertainty. Know that you are not alone. Assalone & Associates is here to help take the uncertainty out of the equation to assist you in starting this process and a new chapter of your life.
If you have questions about divorce or want to speak with an attorney, call our office today at (401) 589-5599 or visit us online to schedule your consultation.